Ironically, your self-image probably isn’t something you created yourself. It’s a patchwork affair made up of bits and pieces you’ve collected from lots of other people: family, teachers, religious leaders, your culture, and the media. Like donning clothing that’s in style, rather than in your style, the self-image you wear might be uncomfortable or inappropriate. Maybe you even fashioned your self-image without questioning whether or not the garment was right for you.
Tailoring your self-image according to someone else’s ideas usually results in unhappiness or frustration. If you see yourself in this picture, perhaps it’s time to take a closer look at the person you think you are, the person you’d like to be, and where the ideas you hold about yourself came from.
“Think of yourself like this: There’s a universal intelligence subsisting throughout nature inherent in every one of its manifestations. You are one of those manifestations. You are a piece of this universal intelligence — a slice of God.” — Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, The Power of Intention
Because your mind is the architect of your reality, it’s inevitable that your thoughts about yourself and what you deserve will generate material conditions that correspond to your ideas. Look at elements like your life situation, your finances, your job, your relationships, your position in your community, and your health. Your life is your mirror. What you see is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. If you aren’t happy with your situation, you can change it by changing your perceptions of yourself.
Remember, nobody else gets to decide whether you’re worthy. Only you do. Consider this quote, which comes from Eleanor Roosevelt: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Nor can anyone else limit your personal power without your consent.
Your Self List
Make a list of your ideas about yourself. Consider your physical qualities, mental abilities, talents, job, relationships, lifestyle, and so on. What are your strengths and weaknesses? What things do you feel comfortable with, and which would you like to change?
Look at all areas of yourself. Make “plus” and “minus” categories if you like. Are you good at managing time? Do you have pretty eyes? Are you a skilled cook? Are you compassionate, a good listener, a loyal friend? Are you overweight? Are you always late for appointments? Do you buy things you don’t need to make yourself feel better? Are you impatient, judgmental, or indulgent?
Pay attention to your “self talk,” or the things you say about yourself. Learn to catch yourself whenever you say something derogatory or self-limiting. Every time you notice you’ve thought or said something unkind about yourself, stop and replace the criticism with a compliment.
It can help to also examine where the negative ideas you hold about yourself originated. Then, think about how these ideas are undermining your power, happiness, success, and well being. Project into the future. If you changed those ideas, what might happen? Plunge into yourself to delve and discover your true motives, needs, and desires. Once you’ve done that, work to bring that self-knowledge to full consciousness, into your daily awareness.
Your will is the force behind every visualization, manifestation, and spell. It galvanizes you at the deepest levels to achieve something that you desire. You don’t simply say the words. You don’t just go through the motions. You commit to the path you’ve decided upon and trust the process that unfolds.
Remember a time in your life when you felt powerful. Bring to mind the feelings that you experienced then, and reconnect with them. Hold these impressions in your mind and heart while you remind yourself that you are still that powerful person inside. Let your willpower energize this image to activate your personal power in the present.
Go with the Flow
Although this phrase implies passivity, what it really recommends it that you put yourself into the stream of cosmic energy that flows through everything in the universe. Alcoholics Anonymous members use the phrase, “Let go and let God.”
“We allow ourselves to be led by the Creative, rather than by intellectual calculation … by clinging to the Creative and its action, we assist in bringing about the correct result. Through non-action — doing nothing at all — we achieve everything.” — Carol K. Anthony, A Guide to the I Ching
“Go with the flow” means “Stop resisting, and relax.” Swimming is a good analogy. If you relax, the water will buoy you up, but if you flail about, you’ll drown. Instead of struggling to figure out everything with your rational mind, allow your intuition to kick in. Trust that the universe, your higher self, Divine Will, Source, or whatever term you prefer has everything under control — all you have to do is stop interfering with the plan. When you hook into something larger than yourself, you discover that the big picture is vastly more complex than you imagined.
The flow of a river is altered constantly by the curvature of the land that contains it, as well as by weather patterns and myriad other factors. In the same way, the purpose of the flow in your life changes as your goals and needs change. By developing an awareness of this deeper stratum of your life, you’re better equipped to anticipate opportunities, to deal with challenges, and to fulfill your potential. In short, you are empowered.
Your Field of Energy
Chinese medical practitioners call it chi. Hindu mystics refer to it as shakti. Yogis label it prana. Medical intuitives think of it as an energy field. Occultists call it an aura. Its existence has been recorded since ancient times, as primitive art clearly shows. In the Sahara desert, in the rocky massifs of that harsh terrain, paintings dating back to the ninth millennium B.C.E. depict human figures surrounded by an envelope of light. In the stained-glass windows of Europe’s cathedrals, these luminous orbs are illustrated as halos.
The energy field radiates outward from the body, forming a sphere of light that can be several inches or several feet wide, depending on the individual’s emotional, spiritual, and physical state at any given time. This vital energy permeates your body and enlivens you; without it, you couldn’t survive. Psychics and sensitive individuals can see different colors swirling in the aura, and those colors change as your thoughts and emotions change. Blockages in the energy field often appear as black or dark spots.
Acupuncturists insert needles into the body along pathways known as meridians, which serve as conduits through which this vital energy or chi flows. The needles stimulate the movement of energy and remove blockages in the chi that can lead to health problems.
In some schools of thought, this energy field is known as the etheric body. It is the energetic pattern from which the denser, physical body forms. Before problems materialize in the physical body, they exist as disturbances in the etheric body. Thus, potential problems can be healed in the etheric field and prevented from solidifying into physical matter.
Chakra (pronounced shakra) means “wheel” in Sanskrit. According to Eastern philosophy, seven major chakras or energy centers run down the center of the physical body, from the crown of the head to the base of the spine. Psychics and medical intuitives often describe the chakras as resembling spinning wheels of different colors.
The vital energy flows through the chakras and nourishes them. Yoga, acupuncture, visualization, sound, light, and other healing practices can energize the chakras so they function optimally. When the chakras are open and balanced, health, well being, and empowerment result. You’ll find more about the energy field and energy centers in Chapter 17.
Energizing the Chakras for Personal Empowerment
Each of these chakras corresponds to a different color and function. By focusing your attention on the various chakras, you can increase the amount of energy flowing through them and remove blockages that can impede the energy.
Let’s say that you’re going to be interviewing for a job that seems absolutely ideal for you. It offers great hours, great flexibility, the whole nine yards. But you’re nervous about the interview, uncertain about what to say or how to say it. A spell to enliven your throat chakra might be just what you need to get through the interview with flying colors.
Timing Personal Power Spells
For each of the spells in this chapter, the most advantageous time to perform the spell is noted. In most cases, you’ll be more successful if you do spells for personal empowerment while the moon is waxing. However, if your goal is to eliminate an obstacle or condition that’s limiting your sense of power, do a spell during the waning moon.
Leo is the zodiac sign of self-love, confidence, and leadership. Therefore, an ideal time to do spells for personal empowerment is while the moon and/or the sun is in Leo. If you want to increase your daring or assertiveness, you could do a spell when the sun and/or moon is in Aries.
The best days of the week for doing self-empowerment spells are Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday, the days ruled by Mars, Jupiter, and the sun, respectively. These heavenly bodies encourage self-esteem, courage, optimism, growth, and leadership ability.
If you know astrology or can consult with an astrologer, look for periods when transiting or progressed Mars, Jupiter, or the sun influences your birth chart in a positive way. However, you may feel a strong need for personal empowerment spells when transiting or progressed Saturn forms difficult connections with the planets in your chart or with the ascendant, imum colei, or midheaven. Saturn contacts often diminish self-esteem temporarily, so you might benefit from doing magic to bolster your confidence at these times.
Quick and Easy Spell for Empowerment
This spell requires no tools except the belief that magic works and that it can work for you. As you’re waking up in the morning, before you open your eyes, when you’re still in that drowsy state halfway between dreams and full consciousness, visualize whatever it is that you desire. The first thoughts you have in the morning are very powerful, and they color your experiences throughout the day. Then say your wish silently to yourself, in the form of an affirmation.
You can do this spell quickly anytime you choose, not just as you’re waking up in the morning. The most important factors are the vividness with which you visualize the end result and the intensity of the emotion with which you fuel your desire.
Maybe your intention is to ace an exam. Visualize the end result as vividly as possible: a big red A at the top of your exam sheet. Pour emotion into it. Imagine how excited you’ll be when you see the A. Then say to yourself, “I ace my exam,” feeling confident that you will do just that. When you get out of bed, forget about it. Release the desire and don’t worry. Assuming that you’ve done your part to get an A on the exam (studied or otherwise prepared yourself), your intention should come true.
Stretching Your Energy Field
When you say someone has presence, what you’re really describing is a person whose energy field is expanded beyond the ordinary range. The energy field is what you react to when you meet a person, even when you see him or her walk into a room. With practice, you can learn to expand your energy field from the usual several inches around your body to as much as several feet.
The field is easy to detect through touch. Stand in front of a mirror and open your arms wide, as if you were about to hug someone. Bring your hands slowly toward your head until you feel a slight resistance. This usually happens when your hands are several inches away from your head. When your energy field expands, you’ll feel the resistance occurring farther away from your head.
You can train yourself to see your energy field. Gaze into a mirror in a dimly lit room. It’s best if the source of illumination is at your back. If you wear glasses or contacts, remove them. If you have 20/20 vision, gaze at your head in the mirror and let your eyes unfocus, so that your reflection seems hazy. Don’t stare into your eyes, but instead look slightly to the side or above your head. You can also do this with another person. Seat that individual in front of a dark cloth and look at the area around his or her head, without trying to focus too closely.
In feng shui, red is considered to be a lucky color. Yellow is associated with royalty and power. Use these fortunate colors to dress up your entrance and thereby strengthen your self-image. Consider painting the door one of these colors or planting red or yellow flowers in pots near the entrance.
The longer you gaze at your reflection in this way, the more likely you are to see an aura surrounding your head. Some people detect colors, while others simply see a halo of pale light. Now think of something that makes you happy — the memory of your marriage, the birth of your child, the purchase of your first home, getting an offer for a great job, winning an award. Recall the emotions that you felt during this event or experience. Let the emotion fill you completely. As the emotions suffuse your entire being, your energy field will start to expand and the halo will balloon. Positive emotions expand your aura — and your personal power — whereas negative ones contract it.
Become familiar with this joyful feeling so you can recapture it at will. With practice, you can charge your energy field in ten or fifteen seconds. It can be done anywhere, anytime. Your body is the only tool you need.